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Be kind…

I think I’ve seen enough now. I’ve seen enough avocado toasts and green smoothie breakfast bowls and butt selfies on social media.

I’m so over #eatclean and #strongnotskinny and #shesquats (butts only here, I’m afraid) and bodies that all totally look the same. I’m so over 20-year olds who call themselves health and fitness coaches. Sorry, but seriously…. the stuff that most of them preach leaves me speechless.

Ever since my macro counting experience I’ve realised more than ever that our bodies actually just need to do one thing – they need to be healthy for us to happily live in them.

Our bodies do not need to be one specific size or dimension or colour. They do not need to be ‘cute’ or ‘hot’. They do not need to be completely hairless, celluliteless, freckleless, wrinkleless. Any of these things does not add to your happiness.

I have spent decades, like millions of other women, wasting my money and my mental energy on trying to become leaner and smoother and cuter. Now that I’m 40 I realise that whether or not have cellulite or a little muffin top or whether my hair is never frizzy has nothing to do with my happiness.

Now I always tell my kids that the main thing in life is just to be kind.

To be kind to yourself, to others around you and to the environment.

Don’t be a jerk, basically.

Don’t eat junk all the time because that’s being a jerk to yourself.

Don’t say mean things to others, don’t throw garbage on the ground and don’t step on bugs.

Ignore those who are jerks and if possible, stay away from them.

Be an optimist and see an opportunity to learn in every struggle. And – I can’t emphasise enough how important it is to be kind to yourself. Some days you say things you don’t mean, some days you eat things that are not good for you, some days you don’t move your body.

All of that is totally ok.

We are not meant to be perfect.

What do you do when you drop your phone and the screen cracks? Do you pick it up and see how you could fix the problem or do you take a hammer and completely smash it as it already has one crack so it’s a lost cause?

Think about it next time you feel like you’ve “fallen off the wagon” – do you just keep falling and keep self-sabotaging more and more? Or do you just shrug off little “slips” as part of life and greet a new day as a new opportunity?

Be kind to yourself.


Soooo…. I’m just going to be minding my own business here in my own corner of the internet. I’ve unfollowed a lot of people lately on social media. I’m going to try to not let the often mindless fitspo masses get too much under my skin. I don’t have to follow them. I can just do my own thing. I’m happy doing my own thing.

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  • Reply
    Beki @MissWheezy
    June 4, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Hear hear! 🙂 x

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    Katie G
    May 28, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    You’ve summed up some of my emotions so well! I am never going to have that perfect little fitspo body or Insta-perfect life…That’s good because I’m 31, I want my body to my strong, healthy, in the right shape for me (which is defo not tiny!) & I’d rather like it if one day my body could carry life. Hating it and comparing it to everyone else won’t help, there’s not enough kindness in the world as it is..we need kindness in our own little worlds!

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    May 25, 2016 at 11:15 pm

    Love this post!

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    May 24, 2016 at 1:50 pm

    Great post! Whole-heartedly agree.

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    Anna @AnnaTheApple
    May 24, 2016 at 12:32 pm

    I don’t know how some Instagrammers live normally in society sometimes. I mean, I love me some fitness and healthy food, but for some people it is literally their ENTIRE life. But that’s the great thing about Instagram and social media – block and unfollow are amazing inventions 😉

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    Sally Robinson
    May 24, 2016 at 10:45 am

    Yes, I totally agree! I’m much more interested in people’s stories and attitudes. Being kind is something I try and show my kids too, especially being kind to yourself.

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    May 24, 2016 at 9:14 am


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